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Couple on Date

Date Night Rules


Date night is an investment that nourishes and cares for your relationship.  Intentional sharing and meaningful time together are important to its’ health and should not be neglected.  When a couple makes the effort to spend time together and continue developing their relationship, no matter what's going on, they are more likely to grow closer, rather than apart.  Those who have "couple time" weekly are 3.5 times more likely to report being "very happy" in their relationships, compared with those who don't. Remember, it's not what you do, it's the spirit in which you do it. 


1.  You can use the predesigned dates (button to the right) in sequential order, or you can print out and cut up the included data sheets and draw one from a jar. You must do the date you draw (no redos) or the sequential date included. Even if you think "oh no, this isn't for us" etc etc etc.  Your job is to take the date as it's designed and then REDESIGN it creatively to fit your desires and physical abilities.

2. The couple alternates responsibility.  This is very important.  For the project to be fulfilled, each one must have creative responsibility.  If you find yourself not very creative then you are likely very resourceful, which means you can reach out to people who can support you in getting more creative in that particular date week.  This kind of action is what expresses TRUE LOVE.  It's not the date itself but EVERYTHING that goes into the execution of it.


And finally and very important:

3. Rituals

Rituals are essential to a healthy interpersonal relationship.  They are symbols of intimacy and a shared sense of the couple.  The rituals you choose together and use on a regular basis become an indicator to your SELF that it's time to reduce distance, expand intimacy, and create romance. Though you will have regular daily rituals, these are intended to be special and applied to the full 24 hours of the date. Example: Our date night is on Thursdays, our DATE NIGHT rituals begin when we start that day, though our date isn't until we get home from work and into the night.


Don't underestimate the power and impact of managing this aspect of The Date Night Project and choose your rituals "now". NEED SUPPORT? Set up a session with me (form below) and we will drill into the perfect rituals for you.


This a list of common ones:

(Share with us any that you think we should add.)

Choose at least three that you can agree/compromise on and commit to using them every week on "your day".

  • All-day long steal kisses

  • Find opportunities to pat the butt

  • Go with no underwear or special underwear

  • Spoon in the morning

  • Start off with a shower together

  • Coffee in bed

  • Special hidden notes

  • Sexting and texting all-day

  • Videotext or emails

  • Bubble baths

  • Hold hands (all day)

  • Sexy costumesFlower(s) in a vase

  • Play "your song"

  • Dance with or without music

  • Deliver unexpected acts of kindness

  • Candles

  • Compliment and acknowledge one another

  • Count down to your evening/outing. (...3 hours to go...)

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