ASSIGNMENT ONE; COMPLETE byThursday August 28 5pm
and email me with COMPLETED PART ONE in subject line.
1. Read through the following paragraphs, though I’ve communicated in question form, I am not expecting answers back from you. These questions are rhetorical.
Exercises and Activities for Developing Self Awareness
How does the Emotional Body unconsciously drive your behavior? How do your thoughts and words impact how you feel and how you experience your day to day life?
Day to day life is REAL life, any other life you refer to isn’t real, it is illusion.
How do hidden core beliefs affect your happiness (Peace of Mind)?
Developing self awareness doesn’t happen through reading books. It is through specific activities that we increase our power of observation. Each exercise increases your self awareness, recovers your personal power, and provides a practice to make changes in the emotional body and the quality of your life, maximizing your quality of life is our number one goal. This is the first principal in raising your vibrational frequency.
2. Please make certain you have listened to the two audios I sent in a previous email (I was told that both audios were the same). Here they are again. You can relate what you just read to the exercise expressed in the audios.
ASSIGNMENT TWO by Thursday September 4 5pm.
Please email me with COMPLETED PART 2 in the subject line.
1. Gratitude – Power and Emotion Exercise
(rhetorical) How much would you trade your eyes for? What are your legs worth? Are you aware of the gifts in your life, or do you overlook and take for granted what you have? When you learn to give your mind a new interpretation you begin to see an entirely different world.
With this practice we become aware of our stories, points of view, emotions, and our power to create.
Identify your top 3 personal gifts (Outside of the physical ones we identified above):
Tell your story of each one. The story should include your view of the gift, perhaps why you have that gift and how you use that gift to contribute or survive.
ASSIGNMENT THREE Please complete by Thursday September 10 5pm
1. Recovering Personal Will Power
Some call it Personal Power, some call it Will Power. We have an extraordinary amount of it at our disposal. Unfortunately without self awareness we unknowingly expend it on self sabotaging. This exercise brings your awareness to every word that comes out of your mouth, and every thought in the mind. If you expand on it you learn to see the agreements others live by as well.
1. Meditate this every day a minimum of 30 minutes. If you must, it could be divided into 15 minute increments. This is best done in complete silence though some like to use guided meditations.
2. Get conscious of your judgements. The judgements of yourself as well as your judgements of others. Carry a pad (or use your cell phone) to record each one you see. Practice giving up your judgements, your evaluations of others and of your self. Record what it takes for you to do that and be prepared to discuss at workshop 2.
3. The Attention – Self Awareness begins with the Attention
Mastering where we focus our attention and how we focus it is the key to our freedom. Most people try to make changes in their life by changing stories, beliefs, and emotions. This is like trying to steer your life by the tail. Before we can expect to consciously direct our life, we need to be able to consciously direct our attention.
1. What do you find yourself focusing on? Do you focus mostly on “what’s working” and the possibility of maximizing the workability? Do you focus mostly on “what’s not working” using that attention on getting yourself to more workability? Do you use what you see as a way of being paralyzed, stopping action? Be prepared to discuss this at our workshop 2. You may want to write down some of what you see. This does not have to be sent to me.
8. Banned Words – Breaking down judgments that separate us from joyful emotions.
Words are powerful symbols. There are certain words that our inner judge and victim use to establish and maintain its place of power in our mind.
choose, desire, want, could
want to, choose to, desire to
am not willing to, choose not to
sometimes, often, seldom
intend, aim, will, can, commit to
nah, nope, huh-uh
you make me
I feel, I am
you- used when talking about yourself
WORKSHOP 2 Rhythms of the Heart: Quality of Life
NOTES to myself:
~Make relevant for the new people
~Meet the new people, make them welcomed
What is the self interest for the 1st degree to create 2nd degree?
Use this video to open and set up the clearing for the course
Opening: Powershots!! What are they? How much are they? How can I get one? Hand out forms to complete for coaching packages or powershots.
Reference the work done in-between workshops specifically the work that rolled over from 1 to the homework.
1. Discuss my audios, ie..The four RE:’s, cancel/cancel and B.I.N.G.O.
O-Opportunities to life.
(assigned to them) Identify your top 3 personal gifts. Tell your story of each one. The story should include your view of the gift, perhaps why you have that gift and how you use that gift to contribute or survive.
Now, with your partner distinguish your top three strengths, take 3 minutes each, be conscious of your time.
Ok, come back. Please come back. Perfect, thank you. So what have you come up with? Why? Very good, thank you.
In order to maximize quality of life, we have to maximize our individual strengths. Once identified, as you just did, we then look to see what can come up in the way of our “being that” and doing the work to get it out of the way. So, let’s again move through the emotional body…
Exercises and Activities for Developing Self Awareness
9. The Emotions – The Emotional Body.
Your emotions determine what kind of day you are having and that determines the life you will lead. We determine the quality of our relationships and life by the emotions that dominate the Emotional Body and the memories they are connected to. Our emotions are powerful forces in our lives. The work we’ve been doing is bringing to the forefront those emotions that dominate our being. Our fears will keep us from doing the things that move us toward our life purpose, and our passion and love will inspire us to great leaps of faith. Wherever your relationships get stuck it’s directly connected to the emotional body. Whether it be with your partner or the pursuit of forever looking for the “right” partner. It is directly connected to and related to the emotional body.
12. False Claims of Power – Object Referral
How often do we fear how someone, be it our partner, date or simply another individual in our life, will react to us?
How often do we alter our behavior because of that fear?
When we have a history of reacting to others we live our lives for others and not for our self. What do I mean here? What I don’t mean is you “be” self centered and ignore other people. NO! What I do mean though, is the kind of self editing that limits “who we get to be”, limits our expression of “what’s real” for us.
We call this:
OBJECT referral, where you are influenced by objects outside yourselves, which includes situations, circumstances, people and things.
It is in this way, OBJECT referral, that you give away your power, your innate power; the power of pure creation. Creating your experience and creating your world.
Take a moment and look with your partner (the person next to you) and share the last incident you can remember where you gave your power away. Take 3 minutes each way, please begin.
Share out loud?
It is driven by your projected Image and the projected image is your social mask. It got created to “fit in” to please the family paradigm and then eventually got adjusted to “fit in” or to please your peer paradigm. It’s not who you really are, it’s your social mask that wants approval, it wants control, it wants to have power, because it lives in fear.
In this reality you’re seeking the approval of others, their approval gives you moments of perceived power but that power isn’t real, because as soon as the approval is missing, you become powerless. Your behavior is always in anticipation of a response. Therefore, FEAR based. In his book Dr. Jampolsky explains that there are only two emotions: fear and love. Love is our natural inheritance; it is the essence of our being. Fear, on the other hand, is manufactured by the mind. In other words, love is real, while fear is an illusion. F.false Eevidence Aappearing Rreal. MIND is consciousness where will resides, while the brain is biology. The brain is somewhat explainable while the mind is not, but clearly, the mind runs the brain.
I assert that there is much of the brain left on automatic. The organism that you are, supposes that its working, so doesn’t mess with it.
We are now messing with it! Just like the video showed, new pathways can be run, but the path of least resistance will have our brains automatically choose the one already carved in.
The mind has to continually shift the brain to continue to carve, it must drive the brain. Now, consider the mind too has to be trained, perhaps by our will it is trained, but then where comes our will? That, I believe, is who you really are, who we really are.
Do you ever pay attention to the thoughts inside your mind? And more importantly do you ever notice the way in which you talk to yourself?
We all pay a lot of attention to the way we communicate with the outside world but we often neglect to improve the way we communicate with ourselves.
When it comes to motivating yourself to be a better person, to do better at work or to create a happier family life you need to understand the importance of taking control of your self talk.
Here are three tips you can use right away to motivate yourself:
1. Talk to yourself the way you talk to someone you love
Be honest! Is it true you sometimes insult yourself, curse yourself and say horrible things about your abilities?
If you spoke like this regularly to someone you care about they would leave and never talk to you again. There is no excuse for treating yourself so badly.
Talk to yourself the way you would talk to someone you deeply love. Be respectful, patient and understanding. Be slow to anger, quick to praise and grateful for the opportunity to listen.
Be on your best behavior when you talk to yourself and you will find that you treat other people better as well. This in turn will cause people to respond more positively to whatever you say. These very people will be more inclined to help you get what you want.
In an indirect way your communication with the outside world will improve.
2. Pump up the volume
Very often we go through our day with an internal dialogue buzzing away in the background. We mutter to ourselves about what we need to do without feeling particularly inspired to do anything other than what we have to do.
This is not an effective strategy for self motivation!
What you need to do instead is to turn up the volume, inject some passion into your words and talk to yourself with enthusiasm. You would not have much luck motivating someone else to take action without putting some energy into your words. You need to do the same to motivate yourself.
The next time you want to motivate yourself to do something talk to yourself the same way you would if someone was standing before you waiting to be inspired.
Speak loudly with passion and excitement either aloud or to yourself inside your head. The more energy you put into it the easier it will be to light the fire inside you that sparks you into action.
3. Know how to feel good when you are having a tough day
No matter how focused, positive and hard working you are there will still be days when nothing seems to go your way. It is on days like this that you must take charge of your brain and take control of your self talk.
You need a back catalogue of memories you can replay to make yourself feel good. Music does it for me. I have so many songs I love to hear that I just pick one out and listen to it in my mind.
In a moment I can listen to sounds that make me feel fantastic simply by choosing to. For best results imagine you have a volume control with bass and treble. Make the music sound rich, loud and resonant.
A friend of mine has such a great memory that he will listen to an entire CD in his mind. How about that for a quick and easy way to feel good whenever you are having a tough day?
One final way to use this tip. Replay happy memories of people telling you how much they value and appreciate you. Hear them saying what a difference you are making and soak up those wonderful feelings of appreciation.
It really is your choice as to how you run your brain. Choose to feel great and your communication with yourself and the outside world will become remarkable. Your motivation will soar and getting more done each day will just get easier and easier with eager people lining up to help you.
Our brains produce as many as 70,000 thoughts per day (National Science Foundation).
Ninety-five percent of these thoughts are repeated daily and reflect the THEME OF OUR LIVES as developed within the initial bruise of the Emotional Body.
These repeated thoughts govern your actions, which lead to your results, leading to the quality of your life and the quality of the relationships in your life. In short, you have a mindset that limits your potential, and you accept limited results in your life. This isn’t to say that YOU as in you right here in front of me aren’t open to MORE. Of course, you are, you’re here, you’re creating. Part of this creating though is to include that you do accept limited results.
LANGUAGE & THOUGHT
Thoughts take place inside our minds and many are encoded in language. Language is the prime medium of thought and it directly correlates with our underlying ‘model’ or ‘map’ of the world. That map or paradigm is governed-put into place by the Emotional Body. The Emotional body itself has no language, therefore it depends upon you and I to ADD language. When we add language, we get very creative either to our detriment or to our gain. But rarely do we challenge ‘whats there’. We take ‘feelings’ and add words, trying to describe what’s happening and what we believe.
LANGUAGE IS OUR REALITY
As our thoughts are created and filtered they represent in effect our subjective reality expressed in language. In fact, for all human intents and purposes, language IS reality. Alter our language, we alter our reality.
The way we speak is a very accurate reflection of how we think. We describe, narrate, and judge all that happens around us. What and how we say things to others and to ourselves is a direct correlation to our quality of life.
Most people have some form of internal dialogue, a continuous conversation with themselves about their experience in any given moment. Human beings are creatures of habit and routine, and that includes our linguistic patterns. In fact, how we speak is mostly a subconscious act. It’s the rare person who speaks slowly and uses words exactly as they wish them to mean. As well it is a rare person that acknowledges that regardless of their care, the listener is rarely that rare person and will listen as lazily as they may speak. Speaking consciously, saying what you mean to say requires an enormous amount of attention and as well compassion for the listener to listen as well as they can listen at this point in time.
Language is a great way to gain not only insight but also access to the Emotional Body and our bruising that gives us our underlying beliefs. No matter who we are, how we speak to ourselves not only reflects but affects every aspect of our life. What we tell ourselves on an ongoing basis, whether it be good or bad, right or wrong reflects not only what we think but also how we feel and act. This directly influences our vibrational frequency and our results in life.
Observing the language we use may help us become more aware of what is happening inside and also to understand how those thoughts are directly linked to how we create our reality. By taking notice of our language, we gain awareness and the more aware we are of what we are saying, both in the internal and external worlds, the more successful we can be in every area of our life.
Distinguish your self-talk
The Key Principles of Identity
1. Identity is the most important power that determines our actions. We will act according to our views of who we truly are—whether these views are accurate or not.
2. Once we know who we are, we must learn to be ourselves. Trying to live in a way that’s inconsistent with our true nature will create a life of frustration, stress and disappointment. We must learn to embrace our deepest needs, desires, strengths, fears, values and beliefs in order to create harmony and tap into our tremendous potential.
3. Sometimes, people maintain the illusion that their behavior decides who they really are.Nothing could be further from the truth. We have all experienced moments of anxiety and defeat, and as a result have said or done things that don’t reflect who we are. This does not make these behaviors a part of our identity. Rather, they are momentary lapses or unique attempts to meet our needs in the moment.
4. When you take responsibility, you restore your identity. When we create unfavorable or hostile situations, we should take action to repair any harm that we may have caused.
5. The fastest way to expand our identity is to do something that’s inconsistent with our current self-image. For example, complete a physical challenge like surfing or sky diving as a way to shake things up.
6. Our personal identities are in a constant state of evolution. We all contain the power to reinvent ourselves and create
a new, empowered identity that expands what is possible in our lives. The key is to take conscious control of the beliefs we are creating about ourselves, so they can propel us toward what we desire most.
“Your philosophy of life shapes you more than anything else.” —Anthony Robbins
5 Love Languages per Gary Chapman
1. Words of affirmation- Do you desire affirmation from others? What are ways that you with-hold affirmation from yourself? (The reticular activating system at play?)
3. Physical touch-Tough one to relate to singles. Perhaps, hugging people, learning to be a great hugger.
4. Quality time- meditation? reading? gym time?
6. Acts of Service
“Watch your thoughts, for they become words.
Watch your words, for they become actions.
Watch your actions, for they become habits.
Watch your habits, for they become character.
Watch your character, for it becomes your destiny.”
The emotion annotation and representation language (EARL) proposed by the Human-Machine Interaction Network on Emotion (HUMAINE) classifies 48 emotions.