Take the time to maximize the quality of your couple, plan a day together. Here’s an idea:
Head on a (mini) road trip
Choose a cool or quirky destination about an hour away from home and head there. It could be a new store, it could be a flea market, or it could be a restaurant, but the drive itself is an awesome way to discuss what’s going on in your lives.
It turns out that thanks to your seating position, the car could be an ideal place for serious discussions. “It’s easier to open up when you’re sitting side by side than face to face,” explains James Cordova, PhD, Professor of Psychology at Clark University. This is especially true when you’re talking about something heavy, creating a situation in which eye contact could be interpreted as threatening or challenging.
For those of you who are real planners, call ahead and have something special waiting for you on the end of the road. Here’s a list of 30 favorites in Northern California.
Bodega Head, a dramatic cliff that juts out into the sea, is a gorgeous place to walk and, in the winter and early spring, even watch whales. There was a whale playing in the water the day that I was there, and it was one of the most beautiful walks I had ever taken. The volunteers on site will let you know if any whales have been spotted that day. Learn more about travel in Bodega Bay here.
2. Fresh seafood in Bodega Bay and along the coast
One of the best things about being so close to the ocean is the fresh seafood. In Bodega Bay, crab is caught in small boats like this one, and fresh Dungeness crab is available at markets and seafood restaurants along the water. Oysters are widely available in the area as well.
3. Point Reyes National Seashore
Point Reyes National Seashore is a peninsula that extends 10 miles out into the Pacific Ocean north of San Francisco. It is the best raw, rugged nature in this part of the state: dramatic cliffs, strong winds and crashing waves, elk and deer roaming the hills, and barking seals at the beaches. The lighthouse sits precariously down a large staircase at the very tip of the peninsula. Learn more about travel in Point Reyes here.
This eclectic outdoor space just outside Sonoma consists of plots that have been designed by some of the world’s leading landscape architects. What results is a lovely place to spend a couple of hours, a nice way to break up wine tasting time, and a family-friendly stop if you have kids. For more about these unique gardens, click here.
5. The Meritage Resort & Spa, Napa
There are many excellent spas in Northern California; unfortunately, I have visited very few. The spa at the Meritage Resort, just outside of the city of Napa in the southern part of Napa Valley, is gorgeous. It’s built in a large cave (directly under the vineyards pictured above). The Meritage offers day-spa services plus great wine tasting at Trinitas, use of the hotel’s beautiful pool, and hiking in the hills above the spa.
Insider’s tip: If you stay at the resort, ask for a room that’s not above the bowling alley. Take the hotel shuttle into town to avoid driving after dinner and wine.
6. Alexander Valley Wine Country north of Sonoma
Alexander Valley lies in the northern part of Sonoma County. Its vine-covered hills, quirky towns, and off-the-radar wineries make this area very worth exploring. It’s a wilder version of Napa Valley–much less crowded, less expensive, but just as beautiful. See more of Alexander Valley here.
7. Road trip through Napa or Sonoma wine country
Let yourself get lost on the small roads of Northern California wine country, especially in Sonoma, Napa, and Alexander Valleys. The hills and wineries provide the perfect scenery, which changes depending on the season. In winter, expect bright yellow mustard growing between bare vines; in spring, expect rolling green hills; in summer, expect dry brown hills and full green vines; and in fall, expect vibrant fall colors in the vineyards.
Insider’s tip: There are many beautiful back roads all over NorCal wine country, but beware of driving in Napa Valley. The traffic can be terrible on weekends. Avoid Highway 29 though Napa Valley because it can be slow. I prefer the Silverado Trail, but another good option is to take 29 north and then cut over to the Silverado Trail to head back south. In Alexander Valley, take Dry Creek Rd.
8. Hiking in Napa Valley and Sonoma County
The wine country has many great areas for hiking. Look for state parks, search for hiking suggestions online for the specific place you’ll be, or ask at the tourism offices for trail information. There are some good hikes around Calistoga in Napa Valley.
9. Boutique wineries in Napa and Sonoma County
Boutique wineries produce wine in small quantities. Most boutique wineries sell their wines only at the wineries or at a few local collectives or specialty shops. The wines are usually very good, and because there are only a few hundred to a few thousand cases of the wine, a certain feeling of experiencing something special comes along with the tasting. Boutique wineries are generally smaller, friendlier, and offer a more personalized experience. Three of my favorites are Rocca Vineyards in Napa, Envy Winesin Calistoga, and J Rickards Winery in Cloverdale.
10. Art in unexpected places in Napa Valley
Several wineries in Napa Valley house art collections, and wineries and tasting rooms all over Northern California host art exhibits. Clos Pegase winery in Napa Valley has an impressive collection of art, especially sculpture by well-known artists of the 20th century.
11. Napa Valley’s showstopping wineries
Even though these are already well-known, I felt that I had to include them because they’re special in their own way. Places like Castello di Amorosa, Chateau Montelana, Beringer, V. Sattui, Silverado, and Robert Mondavi may lack the personal touch of the small wineries but have beautiful gardens, impressive architecture, and fun tours that make them popular among visitors to the valley. I’d recommend visiting one or two and spending the rest of your time in smaller wineries. (Find much more about Napa Valleyhere.)
Insider’s tip: These wineries can be crowded. Choose which one you want to visit based on the type of experience you are looking for. Get there early and then spend the rest of the day at small wineries that will be less crowded. A fun alternative is the tasting rooms and Vintner’s Collective in downtown Napa.
12. Armstrong Redwood Preserve, northern Sonoma County
This state park is located north of Guerneville in Sonoma County and provides a completely different look at the nature in rural wine country. From camping to day hikes and easy family-friendly walks, this forest is a wonderful place to experience the beauty of Northern California.
The UC Berkeley Botanical Garden is one of my favorite places in Northern California. Its 34 acres of plants from around the world, including rare and endangered plant species, are beautifully displayed among the hills above Berkeley. It’s also a wonderful place for children to run and explore nature. Find out more about it here.
15. Ferry Building, San Francisco
The Ferry Building is not only the place where commuters get on and off the ferry; it’s also an indoor food market that showcases the best local food products from the San Francisco area. Stop in here to browse and grab a quick lunch or sit down for a meal–you can even take a spot outside overlooking the water. Depending on your schedule, take a ferry to Sausalito or around the Bay, or cross the street and check out the huge fountain sculpture. You can read the 5 reasons I love the Ferry Building here.
16. Museums in San Francisco
The de Young Museum in San Francisco’s Golden Gate Park. Photo from wikimedia
I am a firm believer in spending as much time outside in a destination as possible, which means that even though I love art and museums, I often skip them in lieu of a long walk or slow afternoon in a cafe. Many visitors to San Francisco might not realize what they’re missing in the museums because the city has so much to see outdoors. The world-class exhibitions at the de Young, MOMA, Legion of Honor, and Asian Art Museum, plus the insanely cool kid-friendly exhibits in the new California Academy of Sciences and Exploratorium, are definitely worth looking into. (See more about visiting San Francisco here.)
Insider’s tip: Enter the de Young Museum, go directly to the right, and head for the tower elevators. Take the elevator to the viewing platform and enjoy a panoramic view of the city. Then exit through the museum and take a stroll through the sculpture garden. Both are free and open to all.
The Sacramento area
17. UC Davis Arboretum, Davis
University of California at Davis is known around the world for its programs with plants, agriculture, and now wine and even beer making. The university’s campus in the cute college town of Davis sits about 20 minutes west of Sacramento.
The arboretum’s 100 acres of gardens include plants from all over the world, divided into collections, such as Australia, the Desert, and East Asia. Because the weather is nice here most of the year, you can spend an easy day in Davis soaking up the town’s quirky atmosphere and walking the arboretum with a picnic stop along the way.
Insider’s tip: Find out which the areas you want to visit first because unless you have a bike, you probably won’t want to walk the whole 3.5 mile loop. Visitor parking is available along the route (get a map here). The Desert areas and Redwood Grove are must-sees.
18. Sacramento restaurants, Midtown Sacramento
Sacramento has been called the Farm-to-Fork capital of the United States. This means that the food here tends to be very fresh, coming from all the farmland that surrounds the city, and that restaurants prepare menus from what’s seasonal and local. There are many good places to eat, especially in Midtown, including Biba, The Red Rabbit (above), Centro, Cafe Bernardo, Magpie, and Thai Basil. Find out more about Sacramento’s food scene here.
19. Vietnamese food, Sacramento
Sacramento is home to a huge Vietnamese population (many of whom I am fortunate to have as my students), so this is a great place to try their food. Little Saigon is the center of the Vietnamese community, but you can find pho places all over town.
Because I don’t eat much meat, my favorite Vietnamese place is a vegan restaurant on Broadway, alongside many good ethnic restaurants. The owner is a Buddhist and takes great care in serving cruelty-free, fresh food that honors Vietnamese traditions and health at the same time. (Read more about it here).
20. Capitol Park, Sacramento
Capitol Park, in the center of Downtown Sacramento, is one of the city’s nicer outdoor spaces. Go inside the large capitol building to see the dome and the historic rooms. Then spend time walking the park and admiring the variety of trees from all over the world as well as the rose garden and war memorials. Find more activities in Sacramentohere.
21. Farmers’ Markets, Sacramento and Davis
Most of California’s cities and towns have frequent farmers’ markets, especially in the summer when the variety of local produce will make your head spin. Sacramento has a market just about every day; the largest is on Sundays 8-12 under the freeway at 8th and W. There are nice smaller ones in Downtown/Midtown Sacramento during the week–get the schedule here.
The farmers’ market in Davis is quite an event, complete with musicians, food stalls, art, and many different food products from the region, including great organic produce, local cheeses, and olive oil. While the Sacramento markets have a similar variety of products, the Davis market stands out because it’s a community event that is fun for the whole family. It’s open Saturdays and, in the summer, Wednesday evenings.
22. Biking in Sacramento
The Sacramento area is perfect for biking because it’s flat and has good bike trails. The best trail is the American River Bike Trail that runs 32 miles from downtown Sacramento to Folsom. There are many points where you can get on the trail and, if you don’t have a bike, you can rent one. The Nimbus Fish Hatchery makes a fun stop along the way, especially if you have kids. Visit the bike trail website here.
23. Breakfast in the outdoor garden of Tower Cafe, Sacramento
Tower Cafe is a fixture in Sacramento, especially loved for its lush outdoor garden and fun food. The restaurant serves an always-changing mix of globally-inspired dishes in a casual atmosphere. My favorite way to experience Tower is to come in the morning and have a slow breakfast outdoors. The seasonal French toast is famous–custard-filled baguettes with a compote of beautiful seasonal fruits.
Insider’s tip: If you go on a weekend, get there early to avoid a long wait for a table outside.
East and South of Sacramento
24. The wines of Clarksburg
Just south of Sacramento is a quiet wine country nestled in farmland along the Sacramento River. The Old Sugar Mill is an old building where you can taste wine from 10 local wineries. Tasting fees are about $5 per person, and it’s open 11-5 every day.Bogle Winery is hidden down small winding roads. The atmosphere is casual and friendly, tastings are free, and the property has a nice outdoor picnic area. Open 11-5 daily.
25. Lodi Wine Country
Lodi wine country is one of my favorite Northern California finds. If you like wine country where tasting costs next to nothing and comes without pretension, Lodi is for you. It’s home to about 100 different wine varietals and many excellent California wines. This is a good area to experience harvest and crush (without the crowds and prices of Napa Valley). The town is a real slice of rural California valley and has several good restaurants. Learn more about Lodi wine country here.
26. Go birding, South of Sacramento
The valley of California is a haven for migrating birds. In late fall and winter, enormous sandhill cranes and other birds from far north settle here. Places to see birds include the Isenberg Crane Reserve near Lodi and the Cosumnes River Preserve between Sacramento and Lodi.
27. Lake Tahoe and Emerald Bay
If you haven’t been to Lake Tahoe, it’s reason enough to come to Northern California. It really is stunning, especially in the winter and spring when the mountains are covered in snow, contrasting with the deep blue of the lake. Emerald Bay (pictured above) is gorgeous any time of the year.
Insider’s tip: Avoid the casino hotels; instead, rent a house near the lake or try one of the area’s elegant hotels or inns.
28. Spending the day outdoors in the Sierra Nevadas
There is something for everyone in the Sierra Nevadas, especially around Lake Tahoe. Most of the year, you can hike the state parks, bike the flat trails near Lake Tahoe, or go boating. In the winter and spring, you can snowshoe in the state parks, ski, and take in the spectacular views.
Near Lake Tahoe, Donner Memorial State Park is a nice stop for walking, a picnic, snowshoeing or cross-country skiing when there’s snow, and learning about the Donner Party in the park’s small museum.
29. Calaveras Big Trees State Park
In the old Gold Country east of Sacramento and the foothills of the Sierra Nevada mountains, this area has beautiful scenery, growing wine production, and historic in towns like Columbia and Murphys. This is a side of California that many don’t expect: rugged, rural, and totally fun, but the Big Trees State Park is a true wonder. Giant sequoias and other varieties of large trees withstood the exploitation of the 19th century, and now easy walking paths take visitors through groves of both new and old trees.
30. Roadside fruit stands all over Northern California
Little stands selling just-picked fruit and other products like vegetables and eggs are all over Northern California. You can find them in rural areas around Lodi, Sacramento, Napa Valley, Sonoma, Davis, Lodi, and other areas near farms. Some, like this one, simply have a box for you to put your money in. Others sell fruit that is pesticide-free even if the farm is not certified organic.
Insider’s tip: Summer is the best season for fruit in Northern California. Early summer brings apricots, cherries, and strawberries, while mid-summer brings nectarines, peaches, pluots, plums, raspberries, and blueberries. Late summer and fall are good times for figs and persimmons.